Hi Reader,

Getting up at 5 am sounds miserable.

But it's actually one of the best habits I've ever had. Emphasis on had because it lasted about two weeks, and that was a wrap.

But if getting up at 5 am is so good for me, why don't I just do it?

It hurts.

New habits hurt.

Getting up at 5 am means a lot more day to deal with. And days can feel long and exhausting already.

But for you, maybe you don't have an issue or the desire to wake up that early.

Maybe you want something different, to lose weight, start working out, make friends, quit drinking, meet someone you could spend the rest of your life with, or leave that toxic relationship or terrible job.

But something is holding you back-

What is it?

I think we all know it's either some kind of fear or the desire to avoid discomfort.

But if just knowing what we need to do isn't motivating us to change, then what will?

How do we actually get from where we are at Point A to what we want at Point B?

Is a motivational quote gonna get us going?

I don't think so.

Talking about it?

Eh maybe...

But it's deeper than that.

We must change what we believe about ourselves and then we can live in a way that person could only see fit to live.

Beliefs change then behaviors follow.

And we don't do that by reading a book, or writing a to do list, or making a resolution.

We change how we view ourselves by going deep into healing the open wounds that are causing these beliefs about ourselves.

If you're lost- no worries- I'll explain.

Look first at the picture below.

So we have these beliefs that come from trauma that happened as a result of difficult life experiences.

I heard Gabor Maté explain trauma like an open wound on your arm. Even if you cover it with a shirt, when someone pokes that area or even just grazes your arm, it will cause excruciating pain because it is raw.

So then the difficult life experience would be the blow to the arm with a bat that caused that raw wound. It could be something like a death in the family or abuse or a parent that worked too much, and you felt alone growing up. Those experiences cause sores that don't heal until we mend them.

Then as we dive into healing those traumas/wounds, our beliefs change- we go from "I can't" to "I'm worthy."

That's when we can finally:

✨Stop overeating or starving ourselves

✨We go from feeling bad for the people that abuse us to not being able even to stand being around toxic people

✨We stop drinking because we no longer have to run away from how our bodies feel or the thoughts in our minds.

So how do we do this?

I can recommend tons of books that help.

I can also recommend breathing exercises.

I can share the oils and supplements that help me.

But I'll share the only thing that gave me the foundation so those other tools could work.

​Coaching.

You need someone who gets it, is willing, is honest yet compassionate, and makes you feel like you're not so bad after all, even if you are missing the mark. Or even if you are that toxic person...

​Here's my coach's information. He has a course, and it's a great start, but if you're really struggling, I recommend taking a leap and starting with a consultation and going from there.

Email me back with any questions. I mean it. Anything, and I'll do my best to help.

And as far as waking up early- I'll share the tools I'm using to work through the discomfort in my next email.

See you next week.

Thanks for being here,

💕Donna Bartos | Anxiety Recovery Blogger